I'm writing as the sole carer for my 80 year old mum who has Stage 4 secondary breast cancer.  Two years ago she was given 1-2 years life expectancy and is even amazing her consultant at present as she is doing so well that things have stayed more or less on an even keel for these 2 years, with no sign of taking a downturn in her health at all.  She has also been lucky enough to not really suffer any side effects whilst being on the chemotherapy for the last 2 years although the drug has had to change a couple of times as it had seemed to stop working.  Mum is very happy with the way things are going and doesn't really mind about all of the hospital appointments as in her own words 'she's not got much else to do!'.  I however, am really, really struggling.  Of course I do not want my mum to be suffering, and am very happy that the drugs are keeping the cancer at bay, BUT as I am the only person who takes her to the majority of her appointments as she does not drive (she does go to her bloods/PICC line flush appt on her own every week but that's because it's a very quick appt and it fits around the buses) I am starting to feel quite resentful of the time it takes me on a weekly basis.  Quite often I have to take time off of work to take her to appts and then have to make the hours up. -fortunately my boss is very understanding.   All of this though,  I have to juggle with my own teenager childcare so sometimes making up the time means I am working until late at night to do so.  Please can other carers let me know how they cope.  I feel incredibly guilty for feeling this way.  I love my mum very much but my own quality of life is suffering because there is no one else to help with her.  Coping strategy suggestions greatly appreciated!!