Could possibly be down to any drugs he was prescribed. I am on hormone therapy for prostate cancer, and both the diagnosis and my hormone therapy drugs have changed the way I feel. I experience extremes, often not sleeping (which is exhausting) and being down in the dumps, and worried about the future. Maybe discuss this with his doctor? Without knowing what you know, I would council patience and understanding, because he may feel he is facing this on his own. Despite having a caring and loving family, I often feel like that, and blokes araely admit to being scared. We all  have expectancies of what our future will be, and his have changed dramatically. Don't underestimate the shock of such a change. Being supportive isn't easy, because your feelings can take quite a buffeting too, but it is vital. CRUK and MacMillan nurses are well worth talking to.

Hi Thanks for the advice. The problem being he won't talk to anyone even though he admits he's changed. He wouldn't be bothered if me and the kids left him. He says he loves us but just isn't bothered anymore by anything and has no empathy. I'm hanging on by a thread as I know it's not him and I've been here as his punch bag through it all and always will be but I'm so depressed and hurt by him. I just don't know what to do anymore. I thought once he rang the bell and had the all clear it may change but instead he's gone worse

Hello Scattymoo

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. It's obviously been an incredibly difficult time for you and I can imagine that you're feeling overwhelmed by things. 

You mention in your post that you've been his punchbag through all of this. I'm unsure if you mean this in a physical or metaphorical sense but either way, it's not OK that you're being treated like this. Abuse can come in many forms. If you want to talk with someone, you can contact Women's Aid for advice and support. 

What support do you have from family and friends Scattymoo? Please reach out to a trusted friend or family member to confide in for support if you've not already done so. I'd also really encourage you to talk with your GP about your mood and how you're feeling. It may be that they can offer some advice and support that will help you all. 

If you think it may help to talk with one of our nurses you can contact them on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm (excluding bank holidays). And don't forget that Samaritans are available 24/7 365 days a year as well. 

I know this is a really difficult time for you all Scattymoo. It may be that your husband doesn't want to accept help from you or anyone else at the moment. You do however have a choice about your welfare and that of your children so please reach out to a trusted friend or family member and contact your GP for support with how you're feeling. 

Hopefully some of the other forum members will reply to share their advice and words of support as well. Please know that we're here for you. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator 

Hello Scattymoo

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. It's obviously been an incredibly difficult time for you and I can imagine that you're feeling overwhelmed by things. 

You mention in your post that you've been his punchbag through all of this. I'm unsure if you mean this in a physical or metaphorical sense but either way, it's not OK that you're being treated like this. Abuse can come in many forms. If you want to talk with someone, you can contact Women's Aid for advice and support. 

What support do you have from family and friends Scattymoo? Please reach out to a trusted friend or family member to confide in for support if you've not already done so. I'd also really encourage you to talk with your GP about your mood and how you're feeling. It may be that they can offer some advice and support that will help you all. 

If you think it may help to talk with one of our nurses you can contact them on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm (excluding bank holidays). And don't forget that Samaritans are available 24/7 365 days a year as well. 

I know this is a really difficult time for you all Scattymoo. It may be that your husband doesn't want to accept help from you or anyone else at the moment. You do however have a choice about your welfare and that of your children so please reach out to a trusted friend or family member and contact your GP for support with how you're feeling. 

Hopefully some of the other forum members will reply to share their advice and words of support as well. Please know that we're here for you. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator