Caring for my Dad

Hey. This is all so new to me and I am struggling to be honest. My Dad was diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer in July and he is deteriorating so fast. One day he was on the golf course and within days, everything was taken away from him. Every day is getting harder and it breaks my heart that I am losing my Dad in front of me. I work full time and have a family but I am doing everything I can for him. He has no memory, very poor mobility and so many other symptoms and its hard. His prognosis in July was around 12 months if he responded to treatment but after radiotherapy and a round of chemo, the treatment was stopped so I know time is precious now and I am making the most of the time we have now. Our hospice is involved and they have been very supportive but I just to need to speak to people in my situation now, someone that really understands. 

  • A very warm welcome to the forum DLH1969 although I'm really sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis and the speed at which he is deteriorating.

    I can't begin to imagine how upsetting and heart-breaking it must be to see this happening before your very eyes but I hope you can take some strength, and comfort, from knowing that our community are here for you, and I'm sure some of our members who have been in this position with their loved ones will be along soon to offer their support and advice.

    I'm glad the hospice have been very supportive with looking after your dad DLH1969, but if you want to discuss anything in relation to your dad's situation with one of our cancer nurses, they're available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They're very easy to talk to and will do all they can to address any other questions or queries you may at this time.

    We're thinking of you DLH1969 and sending all our support to you at this very challenging time.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • So sorry to hear this, my dad is earlier on in the journey but this is exactly what frightens me when he has off days. I guess my perspective since getting the diagnosis has just been to really try to make the most of the time we have left together. I appreciate that's hard, especially when he's struggling with memory and mobility. But I'm finding taking pleasure in the small things we share like love of music or sports are really bringing us together.

    Stay strong x