Hi Cariad20, 

I was very moved to read your post. I am so sorry that your husband's prognosis has changed to a couple of months - there are no words really it is truly heart-breaking. As you say, this "living" with cancer can feel like you are not really living in the way you were used to prior to the diagnosis. Life changes suddenly and irremediably and it can be so hard to adjust and to accept this. The feeling that your husband has been stolen from you is one that many members of our community will be able to relate to as well as the heartbreak seeing him deteriorate in front of your eyes. Being a registered nurse, you will have seen a lot in your life and you will have helped so many patients but nothing can prepare you for this when cancer hits hard right at home and it's normal to feel totally powerless or ill equipped as you say but I am sure your husband really appreciates your support. You are doing everything you can and I just wanted you to know you are not alone and there is no right or wrong way to be during this difficult time but I would like to share with you the information we have on our website for Family, Friends and Carers of a cancer patient. There you will find out some tips on how to support someone with cancer as it can be difficult to know what to say sometimes even to your partner. We also have a section on taking care of yourself which isn't always easy when you are a carer but it is important when going through all this that you manage if you can to have a little bit of time to breathe and to look after yourself so that you can then look after him feeling a bit more energised. There are also organisations you could contact like Carers UK providing help and support for carers. 

What you are going through is so difficult and I will now let those who have been through all this before come and share with you what they themselves experienced when faced with a similar diagnosis and the challenges they faced when looking after a loved one with terminal cancer.

We're thinking of you and and we are all here for you anytime you need to chat to others who truly understand how you are feeling at the moment. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator