Partner with testicular cancer- says old life is dead

Hello, some advice required please. I am struggling to know how to support my partner.  My partner is currently in the middle of treatment for testicular, had the operation but waiting to hear on results of CT scan to see if it's spread and hear what chemo treatment he will need. 

He is having ups and downs which is understandable, after the operation things were feeling positive but now back in a period of waiting and that's causing major anxiety. The other day he told me his old life is dead, and he now has to start this new life and I don't know what to say or do or how to support him. It's breaking my heart to see him unhappy and stressed and anxious and we should be supporting each other but I feel like anything I say makes it worse. 

Thanks for any help, 

  • Welcome to the forum Rosealie although I'm sorry to hear about your partner.

    This must be a very difficult and unsettling time for you both. No doubt your partner is contending with a whole host of thoughts and emotions right now, but I hope you can take some strength, and comfort, from knowing that the Cancer Chat community are here for you Rosealie and I'm sure some of our members will stop by soon to offer their support and advice.

    We do have some general information about supporting someone with cancer on our website, but if you'd like to have a chat about this with one of our cancer nurses, they're available on 0808 800 4040,  Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They're very easy to talk to and will do all they can to help.

    We're thinking of you Rosealie and we'll have our fingers crossed that the CT scan results will show that the cancer hasn't spread.

    Best wishes to you both,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator