It's difficult but, having had family and friends who were terminally ill, I learned to go with their wishes, especially as their health & mood fluctuates hour to hour so making plans to have visitors is sometimes too overwhelming for them. If your friend has a family member or carer with them, perhaps you could just call in passing, knock on the door & leave a little note or card with their carer & say you just wanted them to know you are thinking of them without disturbing them. I'm sure that once they are at the Hospice, they will be made more comfortable & will feel a little more ready to having visitors. They are lucky to have a caring friend like you. Best wishes to you & your friend,

Angie (Stage 3 melanoma patient since 2009)