Mum diagnosed with small bowel cancer stage 4

Not going to lie, hearing your mum has stage 4 small bowel cancer has scared me. She is about to face 6 months of chemotherapy. I feel so scared. Has anyone got any recommendations of how I both help her and myself? 
i seem to go through moments of thinking we will get through this to absolutely breaking down. No one ever prepares you for this in life. 
thanks in advance for your replies. 

  • I keep moaning about middle age because everyone we care about is starting to decline or suffer from some form of debilitating disease with uncertain prognoses. I remember thinking adults had it easier but I long for more carefree times. I hope you and your mum handle the chemo times well and I hope it beats it into submission. Stage 4 (as my partner's melanoma is) is stressful but irrational or not I always hope. I recognise the yo-yo moods though. Keep us posted x

  • Not advice but here to say you're not alone. I feel the same. Husband stage 4 duodenum. Complete rollocoaster of emotions 

  • This is exactly what mum has been diagnosed with! Apparently it is rare! 
    She has got 6 months of chemotherapy ahead of her. So scared. 

  • Yes also heard rare. Not given option of surgery, chemo offered initially for 4 months. Husbands just turned 44 and we have a 5 and 1 year old. Trying to stay positive but feeling all the emotions. I guess it's normal as so many what ifs with treatment and future. I hope your mum responds well to Chemo. 

  • Hey there, I've just had a stage 4 cancer diagnosis for my dad and I'm scared too. I don't have any advice, as it's all very fresh, but your ups and down sound very similar to what I'm experiencing. Just wanted to let you know I saw your message and sending my best wishes for the chemo x