My Dad is dying, my heart is breaking.

My Dad has recently come home from a ten day respite in a hospice. It was really important for him that he came home. He was treated for bowel cancer back in 2019, but could not complete the chemo due to toxicity. Since June, this year, my Dad has been getting more poorly and eating less. The consultant believes that the cancer has come back and currently in his stomach lining which is why he has had so many problems eating and processing food now. I think bother me and my Dad both thought we would have a few nicer times left at home but it’s been pretty awful, He’s only having a watered down cup of milk everyday, and I feel so helpless seeing him so ill and unable to ease his suffering. 
I am so close to my Dad, to think of life without him is extremely difficult.

  • Hello Mezrie

    I'm so very sorry to hear about your Dad's diagnosis and how his health has deteriorated over the last few months. It can be incredibly difficult watching a loved one deteriorate in this way and it's understandable that you feel so helpless. 

    Has your Dad been referred to the community palliative care team Mezrie? I'm just wondering what support the two of you have or if a referral needs to be arranged so that your Dad can be made more comfortable. do get in touch with his specialist cancer nurse if he has one or alternatively reach out to your Dad's GP surgery and explain the situation to them. 

    If you'd like to talk things through with one of our nurses for some advice and support I know they will be happy to listen and offer any information and reassurance they can. They're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

    Keep in touch Mezrie if it helps to have a safe space to put down your thoughts and feelings in writing. We're here for you. 

    Sending you both my best wishes,
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

  • God bless your dad, you and your family.