How can I help?

My wife begins chemo for breast cancer in a few days.  This is her 3rd diagnosis, the first was 20 years ago, the second, 10 but this is the first time for chemo!  We’re both worried but I’m trying not to show iit.

Can anyone suggest things I can do to make it as easy as possible for her and possibly more importantly, tell me what I shouldn’t say or do?

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  • Hi, my wife just finished 24 weeks of Chemo and had surgery last week for her treble negative breast cancer. I think it depends on the type of chemotherapy what side effects she gets but my wife had to have it in 3 weekly cycles and generally she would feel quite rough for the first half of the cycle so I would help by basically doing all the house work, making her dinner, doing all the school runs, being on call for support with any medicines and similarly being around just for any general conversations etc. It's hard going even when supporting your partner, I was lucky as my work have been really supportive and allowed me to predominantly work from home so I can be there to help but it's worth having a conversation with your employer as it's likely you will need to help take her to appointments etc particularly if she can't drive etc. I wish you and your wife the best of luck in her recovery.

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  • Hi, my wife just finished 24 weeks of Chemo and had surgery last week for her treble negative breast cancer. I think it depends on the type of chemotherapy what side effects she gets but my wife had to have it in 3 weekly cycles and generally she would feel quite rough for the first half of the cycle so I would help by basically doing all the house work, making her dinner, doing all the school runs, being on call for support with any medicines and similarly being around just for any general conversations etc. It's hard going even when supporting your partner, I was lucky as my work have been really supportive and allowed me to predominantly work from home so I can be there to help but it's worth having a conversation with your employer as it's likely you will need to help take her to appointments etc particularly if she can't drive etc. I wish you and your wife the best of luck in her recovery.

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