Final days

My wee mum was diagnosed last week with stomach cancer. We have been told it’s spread to lungs gallbladder liver and maybe bones. She has been in hospital since.  She has not ate much and her thirst is also gone. She just wants milk.  She is on morphine. She cannot move or get out of bed. She said her dad is around her. She has talked about death.  She had a lot of visitors today and seems to enjoy it she is chatting and laughing with them. I was alone with her yeaterday and she was in a deep sleep with breathing taking a bit longer. I’m wondering is visitors all day too much. We have been told weeks. I just want to know I suppose how long it will be. 

  • Hello Dee1592

    I'm so sorry to hear about your Mum's diagnosis and that she is now in the final weeks of her life. Undoubtedly this is a difficult time and I  hope that you are both being well supported by the health professionals caring for your Mum. 

    It's good to hear that despite everything she has been able to spend some time chatting and laughing with visitors. I can understand that maybe you are concerned that the visits are too much for your Mum but it sounds as though she was able to enjoy the day even if it did leave her very tired afterwards. 

    It's so difficult for anyone to say how long your Mum may have left. The doctors and nurses looking after her will have the best overview of her condition but even their estimates won't be 100% accurate. Just try to take each day as it comes and enjoy the time you can with your Mum when she is awake and feels well enough to chat with you. 

    If you think it might be helpful to talk things through with one of our nurses you're most welcome to give them a call. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any advice and support they can. They're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

    I hope you will have support from family and friends around you in the coming weeks and months. Do keep in touch here with the Cancer Chat community if it helps to have a safe space to put down in writing how you're feeling. We're here for you. 

    Sending you both my best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator