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How do you cope with the rollercoaster of emotions when caring for someone receiving palliative chemo?

Rhubarbdragon
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Hello 

Just wondering how others cope with the rollercoaster of emotions when caring for a spouse receiving palliative chemo.

Hubby wont talk about things and bottles everything up then lets ot out angrily by picking an arguement 

This is not new its the way he has been but it seems ridiculous to me now to be wasting time fighting.....he is frustrated and angry because he cant have want he wants childish I know ( he wants a puppy and I dont want him to be unhappy but reallistically he isnt well enough to care for a pup ...and he has been given sixmonths to live. What do i do ?

I dont want a dog and if and when he dies i will be stuck with a little creature who will be sad .

I find it hard to say No and when other things dont work out its my fault too!

He is pushing me away and honestly im fed up of it ...i feel like walking away .....

  • I'm very sorry to hear how difficult things are for you and your husband right now Rhubarbdragon.

    Caring for someone at this stage of their cancer journey can be incredibly tough, and comes with so many challenges along the way, but I hope it helps to know that you are not alone as so many of our members will know what you're going through and I'm sure some of them will stop by soon to offer their support and advice.

    It can be so easy to forget to take care of yourself with everything that is going on, but I hope this advice will help you find a way to cope with all the emotions you're currently contending with.

    I know there isn't anything I can say or do that can make this situation any easier, but we're thinking of you Rhubarbdragon and are sending all our strength and support your way.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

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