A very warm welcome to the Cancer Chat community HLP although I'm so sorry to hear your dad has been diagnosed with bowel, liver and lung cancer.

Finding this out must have been incredibly difficult, but our members are here for you HLP and hopefully it won't be long until some of them stop by to share their experiences and advice.

I know you're contending with a lot of complex thoughts and emotions at the moment so if you'd like to talk any of this through with one of our cancer nurses, they're available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They're very understanding and will do all they can to support you on this journey.

We're thinking of you HLP and sending all our strength to you and your family at this very challenging time.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi,

Im 36 and I also found out yesterday my dad has cancer. Still waiting to hear what stage but it has spread. He has taken it in his stride but he is like that. It doesn't feel real to me. I keep having flashes of time where it dawns on me the enormity of it but my brain can't/won't sustain it. Both of his parents (my grandparents) died or cancer, so like you I always had a thought it could be possible but hoped not. I know what you mean about thinking of the last times to come as well. He was diagnosed in a&e.

Oh I’m so sorry to hear that. My Dads came from a routine over 60s check. Like you, the enormity of it comes and goes. Everything else seems so different now. I have a lot of people around me who are being as brilliant as they can be, but feel quite alone and just want the best for my Dad. 

We won’t know full prognosis for a couple of weeks as they need to do a biopsy, so right now he’s told us to be quiet and just carry on as normal. A lot easier said than done! But ultimately I’ll spend our time together doing everything we can. 

‘out of darkness comes light’, these words are getting me through those moments when it all gets a bit much.