Knocked sideways by daughters diagnosis

I’m nearly 80.  My 61 year old daughter, who is my rock and the most  dearly loved person in my life, was today diagnosed with multiple cancers in the bowel, liver and lungs. The enormity of grief, and my desire to care for my child is overwhelming.  I want to stay strong and offer every bit of help I can, how do you achieve this?  Help please, I’m in pieces.

  • Hi Ajayeff,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm sorry to hear of the situation with your daughter - I am sure this must be incredibly difficult. I know this must be a lot to deal with and I hope you are getting on OK.

    I'm not sure if you are waiting for more information about it all - if so then I hope it's not long to wait to get this and to understand potential next steps.

    I understand what you say about wanting to stay strong, but it's also OK to to not be OK and to find things tough, and also to not take on everything yourself. I know this can be easier said than done.

    Hopefully your daughter has others around her for support too. Do what you can but also keep looking after yourself. I hope that this forum can of some help to you during this time - we are always here if ever you need it, and it's often helpful simply to write things down, and also to reach out to others.

    Hopefully you'll get some more replies to your post here soon - otherwise do browse or search the forum for other discussions and people to connect with if you would like to.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator