My mom has kidney cancer and now she has breast cancer

Hi I am 23 the eldest of two. My sister is 20. We are both studying at universities away from my mom. My mom was diagnosed early last year with kidney cancer and after two operations she unfortunately was recently diagnosed with breast cancer. She has stopped responding to my messages and doesn’t stay on the phone long. I travel back home as much as possible but she is home alone mostly. I feel very lonely at the moment and very disconnected from my mom and wider family who are not very present. Any advice or words of encouragement. Feels very doom and gloom at the moment :/

  • Hello PhelanGood

    I'm sorry to hear about your Mom's diagnosis. It sounds like it's a difficult time for you all. 

    It's worth reaching out to the University support services to see if there is any counselling support that you can access. It may be that talking with someone about your Mom's diagnosis and your concerns and worries may be helpful. I'd also suggest having a look at the Maggie's website to see if there is a centre in your local area. They are able to offer support to anyone impacted by a cancer diagnosis and often run friends and family support groups. 

    Do talk with your sister about how you're feeling about Mom's illness. It's possible that she is experiencing similar worries and concerns but hasn't felt able to broach the subject. Hopefully the two of you will be able to support each other through this difficult time. 

    I hope that you're able to get home to see your Mom soon and reconnect with her. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator