Welcome to Cancer Chat BrettM although I'm so sorry to hear about your wife.

You both sound like incredibly brave and strong people, so please don't put yourself down or feel guilty for not being able to be there 100% of the time. Everyone has their own way of coping with extremely difficult situations like this and taking care of yourself so you have the strength to support your wife is very important. You're doing an amazing job BrettM, and I'm sure your wife appreciates everything you have and continue to do for her on this journey.

I hope it helps to know that so many of our members will know what you're both going through as well BrettM, so you are not alone, and I'm sure you will receive some support and advice from the community soon.

I'm not sure from your post if you have been able to connect with others in person who are in a similar position to you and your wife but if you haven't, maybe you could see if there are any local support groups in your area? There is a cancer charity called Maggie's who have cancer centres across the UK that anyone affected by cancer can visit and get free support and advice, so maybe this is something you could look in to if you feel it may help you at this time.

We also have a team of very friendly and supportive cancer nurses you can talk things through with on 0808 800 4040. Their helpline is open Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m and they will do all they can to help.

Do keep posting if you find it helps BrettM and remember that we will always be here for you.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator