Olivia- mum recently diagnosed with stage 1 breast cancer. What can I do to help her?

Hi I’ve never posted on here before. My mums recently been diagnosed with breast cancer she’s stage 1, recently we had the genetic testing back and it’s all clear which is great news. Shes had her 8th round so far and seems to be doing okay apart from recently she’s become a lot more tired and has less energy which is understandable. I’m still trying to wrap my head round her going through this and learning along the way all the procedures, terminology and her treatments. I don’t know sometimes what to say or how to help and I’m struggling abit which sounds very selfish to say as she’s the one who’s having to process this herself. I’m just stuck on what I can do and how to be there for her. I have 3 siblings but we all haven’t really spoke much about the situation and I don’t want them to feel like I’m trying to drag them down and be negative but I’ve always been a worrier and don’t know how to navigate all this. 
any suggestions will be greatly appreciated.

thankyou Olivia 

  • Hi Olivia and a very warm welcome to Cancer Chat, 

    You seem to be such a lovely caring daughter and I am sure your mum appreciates having you by her side as she is going through breast cancer treatment. There is information on our website on stage 1 breast cancer which I hope you will find helpful and reassuring. I am glad she is doing ok with the treatment even though she has less energy which is totally understandable. It's a lot to take in and it's normal that you are feeling a little bit overwhelmed by it all - the terminology, procedures and the treatment; it can all be a bit complex and there's a lot to process so if you have any questions about anything, we have a nurse helpline you can call on this free number 0808 800 4040 - their line is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm and they will be happy to answer questions you may have. 

    You don't sound selfish at all to me, you seem super caring and loving with your mum but this has all come as a shock for everyone and it can be difficult for loved ones to adapt to current circumstances. We have a page on our website for Family, Friends and Carers which I hope you will find useful  - there you will find information on how to support someone with cancer without forgetting also to take care of yourself and find time for yourself so that you can be more energised to look after your mum. These are only a few general tips which I hope will inspire you but I am sure you will find your own way to be there for your mum and support her through this challenging time. 

    I will now also invite other members of our community to come and say hello and give you suggestions based on their own personal experiences. It helps to talk to others here who find themselves or who have been in a similar boat. You are not alone and we are all here for you anytime you need to offload. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator