Hi Essences, 

It must be so unsettling for you and her loved ones to see your nan being so silent and not telling you anything more. It must be hard too to see that she has refused treatment and to feel so completely in the dark as to staging and what to expect. There is information on our website on lung cancer you might be interested in having a look at and I would also suggest you give our cancer nurses a call on this free number 0808 800 4040 to talk things through with them as they may be able to shed some light on your nan's situation and what to do in a case like this. Their helpline is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm. 

Hopefully you will hear from the experiences of others here on the forum who have been through something similar before. 

I hope that your nan manages to open up a little bit more and talk to her loved ones about how she is feeling and what the details of her diagnosis might be. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator