I’ve just been able to stay with my very independent /competent 80-something parents for a few days. I live far from them. Dad is so focused on his medication regime and noticing all his symptoms. He is up usually 3 times in the night because of prostate and meds. Sleeps a lot through the day. He doesn’t want to leave the house.he has had a few hospital visits in the last couple months for cardiac related acute situations. Of course these are traumatic and exhausting. But when we “jolly him along” he seems to benefit from outings and social interactions. My poor mum is struggling to know how to support him. Other than what she’s already doing which is huge. She is vibrant and active but she has felt unable to keep doing the things she usually enjoys that take her out of the house as she feels on permanent “crisis response” mode. He is under palliative care team, but also still so many apts with GP, oncologist nephrologist cardiologist…. How can we encourage him to think about something else? I’ve tried lots of suggestions… I feel like he has become so ‘tunnel vision’ but want to urge him to see that there’s lots of life left to live while he has a good quality of life. Any advice???
