I'm sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis. It's naturally a difficult time for you both and understandable that you want to make sure the right choices are made regarding his care.
Have you spoken with the palliative care team about your concerns? Hopefully, they will be able to offer you some reassurance and help you both make the right decision. If you have family, it can also help to talk with them about your situation.
We have a team of nurses here at CRUK that you can call to talk to in confidence if it would help to chat things through with someone not directly involved in the situation. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any advice, information, and support they can. If you'd like to talk with them they're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040.
Whatever decision is made, I hope that your husband and you both have the support that you need during this difficult time.
