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My Partner & Lung Cancer

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My partner (we have been together thirty years) has Stage 3-B, non-small-cell lung cancer that was growing into his airway and he has just had a Y-shaped stent implanted to help him breath.

He is only 49 and is going through all the complex emotions (as am i) that accompany the terror of the rollarcoaster that is cancer.

We are waiting for his treatments to start and at least now he will be able to breath while having his radio/chemotherapy. He has a lot of fight in him but gets very deflated when he hears the statistics associated with the situation he's going through.

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    Sounds like you're doing the right thing in reassuring him. First advice is never google stuff. If you have to read something, make sure it's a trusted and legitimate (NHS) source. I guess it's a balance between understanding and head in sand. For me, I only read up (or my wife did - she's medical) when the docs/nurses told me something and I wanted to know a bit more.

    But statistics are just that, don't fit everyone and you never can tell what is going to happen. Everyone is completely different. Although I'm a natural worrier, I had a positive outlook for fighting cancer - with my focus being able to enjoy spending time playing with my kids and being with my wife. We fought it together.

    I would try and get to him to focus on something post chemo/radio. But set targets for while he's having that treatment. I liked to tick of each day and it was nice to get to the end of the week (especially when i got 'weekends off' the oral chemo). He is defo going to have down days. But I'm absolutely convinced, a positive frame of mind to go with your fight is one of the biggest things you co do to beat cancer.

    Good luck with the battle - you CAN beat it :)

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    Sounds like you're doing the right thing in reassuring him. First advice is never google stuff. If you have to read something, make sure it's a trusted and legitimate (NHS) source. I guess it's a balance between understanding and head in sand. For me, I only read up (or my wife did - she's medical) when the docs/nurses told me something and I wanted to know a bit more.

    But statistics are just that, don't fit everyone and you never can tell what is going to happen. Everyone is completely different. Although I'm a natural worrier, I had a positive outlook for fighting cancer - with my focus being able to enjoy spending time playing with my kids and being with my wife. We fought it together.

    I would try and get to him to focus on something post chemo/radio. But set targets for while he's having that treatment. I liked to tick of each day and it was nice to get to the end of the week (especially when i got 'weekends off' the oral chemo). He is defo going to have down days. But I'm absolutely convinced, a positive frame of mind to go with your fight is one of the biggest things you co do to beat cancer.

    Good luck with the battle - you CAN beat it :)

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