Hello 6869

I'm sorry to hear that things are so difficult for you and your husband at the moment. It's understandable that you're both struggling with all that you've been through and I can also understand that you would like to try and improve things. 

Has your husband spoken with his GP or Consultant/clinical nurse specialist about how he's feeling? He certainly won't be the only person to have struggled with low mood after treatment has finished and the hormone therapy that he's receiving may well be adding to that low mood. However, there are very likely things that can be offered to help improve this problem. 

I don't know if your husband would be open to talking with someone about how he's feeling. Sometimes talking to someone who isn't a loved one can be easier. Your GP surgery or his clinical nurse specialist should know about support services that are available in your local area. It may be that there is a Maggie's that he can visit. Prostate Cancer UK offers a telephone service where your husband, or you, can talk with trained volunteers who can share their similar experiences. 

If either of you would like to talk with one of our nurses for some support and advice, you're welcome to call them on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any information they can. 

Hopefully some of the forum members who have similar experiences will reply to your post to share their stories and advice with you soon. 

I hope that you're both able to get the support you need to improve things. Do keep in touch and let us know how things are going. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator 

Thank you Jenn

I really appreciate your help and advice.

I persuaded him to contact our Gp surgery where they have a counsellor.  Hopefully that will be good for him.

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Hello 

I hope that things have improved for you as it’s been a month since your post .

my husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer at Christmas 2018 - we kept it from family and friends until the new year so as not to spoil everyone’s Christmas and he spent all of 2019 having procedures and radiotherapy.

His mood was low and he couldnt speak to me about it . I felt quite shut out . I think it was because he felt he was no longer a man as obviously our intimate times came to a sudden halt . He suffered from hot flushes and loss of muscle and gained weight due to the hormone treatment. BUT today he is a healthy happy survivor and we are very grateful that he is able to live a normal life, take holidays and enjoy our family . 

There is light at the end of the tunnel with a diagnosis of prostate cancer and your love for each other will carry you through.

Ive joined this forum because now , my youngest son has been diagnosed with a tumour on his pancreas - that’s a much bigger hill to climb we are finding out .

sending positive vibes and hugs to you 

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Thank you for your positive comments about your husband but I'm so sorry to hear about your son.

That's just heartbreaking for you...

I'm sending positive vibes back to you and a massive hug xx