Hello DD24, 

What a shock it must have been for your brother to be re-diagnosed with bowel cancer especially after being told all looked great. It was a good instinct he had to go for the colonoscopy but I am so sorry to hear they found cancer in a slightly different location. It's great that you can drive now and visit him whenever you can. I am sure he really appreciates that you want to be there for him even if you live quite far away. It's so nice of you to be asking for the best ways to support your brother and I hope that our community members who have been in a similar position will be along shortly to share their own experiences with you of looking after a loved one with cancer providing love and support. But as you know your brother best, I am sure your intuition will guide you and that you will find ways to make your brother feel special and supported. 

Our website has information for Family, friends and caregivers which will give you a few good pointers on how to support someone with cancer. This includes great tips on how to talk to someone with cancer with a nice little video made by cancer patients themselves. You will also find out more about providing emotional support, how to be a good listener and also how to give practical support even though this might be more difficult as you live away but there can be things you can help with when you visit him like making him or bringing him a nice meal. But at the end of the day, simply being there for him with your sense of humour, your shared memories, those special moments that only brothers and sisters share all this will mean the world to him. You seem to be very caring and he is very lucky to have you by his side during this difficult time. 

Best wishes to you both, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Thankyou. I can't even begin to understand how fearfull it is for him, though he tries his hardest to stay positive at present.

We await his full diagnosis and the plan for treatment going forward.