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My mum was diagnosed with myeloma in Jan 2023 and given 3 to 6 months to live. She is still plodding on but every day is getting harder watching her detoriate. After spending two weeks in hospital with an infection and catching covid whist in there she can't manage on her own anymore. So she's got carers going in 4 times a day to support her as well as me. I'm the only person who does this as there's no one else. Her brain is becoming affected now not sure if it's part of the cancer or it's the morphine and other pain killers shes on. She's either been very forgetful. Hallucinating. Angry or upset. I've been so stressed over the last year it's been vile. Me and my partner are on standby continually incase we are needed which there have been a few times lately. I just want whats best for mum but her quality of life at the moment isn't good but I don't know what more I can do. We do have the support of Douglas macmillan who are brilliant. 

  • Welcome to Cancer Chat, Jb.58

    I'm sorry to hear about your mum's condition and the challenges you're facing as her primary caregiver. It's incredibly tough to witness a loved one's health decline, especially with myeloma but I'm glad that you have support from Macmillan. 

    While it's important to prioritise her comfort and well being, it's crucial to take care of yourself as well. With this in mind there's a page from our website called Family, friends, carers and cancer I wanted to share with you in case this can be of some help.

    Just know that you are not alone, and I hope that other forum members who can relate to your situation will stop by soon to chat with you and offer support.

    Sending strength to you and your mum during this challenging time.

    Take care,

    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator