Just found out my mum has been diagnosed

Hi. I’m a 23 year old female with no siblings. My mum has just told me she has been diagnosed with stage 1 breast cancer. We are going to an appointment together later this week. I’m terrified. I know nothing about cancer except that the thought of it is petrifying. im an extremely anxious person who has always feared the worst -  I know many people aren’t as fortunate to have such an early diagnosis, she’s in very high spirits and of course I don’t want her to worry about me worrying on top of everything. But I’m frightened. It’s such a scary word, diagnosis and unknown experience. I’m looking for advice that anyone might have on processing it all. I am feeling so many feelings and I don’t know how/or who to communicate about it. She doesn’t want anyone to know, it’s not for me to share, but I can’t stop my mind reeling. 

  • A very warm welcome to the forum onlychilddaughter although I'm sorry to hear your mum has been diagnosed with breast cancer.

    As you say, it's good to hear it's been caught early and hopefully the appointment you're going to with your mum later this week will make things a lot clearer and less scary for you but I just wanted to reassure you that how you are feeling at the moment is a completely normal and natural response.

    Macmillan have a very useful article about the different feelings you may be contending with, and how to deal with them, on their website but I'm glad you've decided to join us as our members will completely understand what you're going through at the moment, and hopefully some of them will stop by soon to offer their support and advice.

    If you would like to talk any of this through with one of our cancer nurses, they're available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They're very easy to talk to and will do all they can to support you at this time.

    Do keep posting if you find it helps onlychilddaughter and remember, you are not alone.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator