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Sadness, grieving before death.

Lainie75
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So my mum has been told that she has stage 4 cancer still waiting for biopsy results to state treatment, no treatment etc, my personal mental health had dipped at xmas it was just starting to pick up and then mum had to break the news, at the moment I’ve extremely emotional and thinking and living like shes gone already, think at the moment shes doing better than me. Im on antidepressants and have sleepers at the moment as tinnitus is raging. Im scared i breaking at seams but read its all natural, have to lovely boys but as u can guess negative thoughts can be hard. Any support or advice welcome please.  

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    My husband 53 has stage 4 colon cancer feel.*** down have 4 boys 23 21 18 9 trying to process this worried about future trying to keep positive yet to start chemo as slow growing. Feel alone

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    Hi there, I just wanted to say, I know totally how you feel. We are awaiting oncologist for my mums stage 4 bowel cancer, I am struggling to breath at the thought of living my life without my mum. I also have 2 boys to keep going for.. just wanted you to know that you're not alone feeling like this. Wish you every strength to get through the coming months, years x

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    So so so hard, you mist think that your boys need you as that is what i have ti keep telling myself xxx

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    Hello.

    i have to sisters as well, i had to say something today when my big sister was with my mum as i cant do with anymore negativity, i understand the struggles with mum i really do she gets her results Thursday and she stated today that she thinks its spread all over, then my big sister was on about someone on facebook whos cancer was back after 13 yrs.

    in the end i had to say i cant do this i have to sort me out and be strong for the boys and i dont wanna hear anymore.

    i get how hard it is because i break regular but it defo isnt helping with all the negativity as well i just had to be honest.As hard as we know it will be we also have to remember we do have to carry on and prepare ourselves in a way that works for us.

    thinking of you remember them boys xxx

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