Mum terminally ill

My mum was recently diagnosed with advanced liver cancer a few months ago, we were told she only had 12 months left to live. I live with her so I’m trying to hold down a full time job and care for her. I lost my dad to lung cancer a few years ago so I’m struggling to deal with these feelings. 

I feel like there’s no where to go or run to, it’s so hard and it must be even harder for my mum to go through but I don’t know to be more supportive apart from going to appointments with her and just being here. Her cancer wasn’t picked up until two months after it showed up on the scan, I feel so angry and upset that she has to go through this I don’t know how to offload without making her feel worse 

  • Hi K5898 and welcome to the forum.

    I'm so sorry to hear about your mum's diagnosis and the prognosis she has been given. This must be a very difficult time for you both but our community are here for you and I'm sure it won't be long until you receive some support and advice from others who are on this journey as well.

    We have some information on our website about what support may be available at home for you and your mum but for further information and advice it would be best to get in touch with Marie Curie, as they provide care and support for anyone living with a terminal illness, including family and friends.

    Being a carer and working full time can be very tough. If you feel comfortable doing so, maybe you could have a discussion about your mum's situation with your work and see if there is anything that can be done that can make things easier for you. You can also find out what support is available to you from Carers UK but if you'd like to discuss anything that you've mentioned in your post with one of our cancer nurses, you can do so on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.

    You're more than welcome to keep talking and off-loading with us on here K5898 as our members are here to support you and really do understand what you are going through at this time.

    Be kind to yourself K5898 and remember that you are not alone.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator