Caring for my mum

I’m a bit ahead of the game here but my mum is having a colonoscopy next week because blood has shown up in a stool sample and I’m feeling sure it will be a recurrence of colon cancer. She has had colon cancer twice, and a non cancerous bowel blockage (and also endometrial cancer). At Christmas she went from being a chronic diarrhoea sufferer, reliant on large doses of loperamide, as a result of her 3 major bowel ops, to being constipated. She looked much thinner than usual and her skin seemed a bit yellow. She is 83 and lives alone in London. She can’t drive as she has macular degeneration. I am a 5hr (minimum) drive away and have school age children and animals so I am worried about looking after her if my horrible hunch that her cancer has returned turns out to be right. In the past het sister took it in turns with me to support her so I didn’t have to leave my family for too long at a time but since then that sister has sadly died. My question is, does anyone have experience of trying to move a cancer patient from one part of the country to another? It will be so much easier for me to care for her if she is near me but I don’t know how much support there is available for making a move like this and how smooth the process would be from a medical perspective - ie switching hospitals / consultants / gp etc. My boys are doing A levels and GCSEs this year so naturally I don’t want them to feel too anxious or disrupted. Any ideas or advice very welcome. 

  • Hi K80,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm sorry to hear of the possible situation you're in. You may find it helpful to have a chat with one of our nurses about this, as they may be able to offer some general advice. If you'd like to do this, you can reach them on freephone 0808 800 4040 - Monday-Friday, 9-5.

    I hope you're able to get the information you need soon, and that things go OK and are manageable.

    We're always here for support on the forum if ever you need it.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator