How do I see him

My dad has recently been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer , he starts  his treatment tomorrow. The problem I have is that the woman he married will not let me see him over an argument that happend over 5 years ago . He may not have much time , and has been told there may be a need for him to isolate due to his immune system being low , so calls and video call maybe the only option . 
I managed to spark to him yesterday briefly 2 texts but now as she has seen them she has blocked me from all contact on social media so I can’t find out how he is , what can I do ? I’m devastated at the news let alone the fact I’m being barred  from spending time with him . What do I do ? 

  • Hello Erik1978

    I'm sorry to hear about your Dad's diagnosis and the difficult situation that you find yourself in regarding limited contact. It sounds like it's been a difficult time for you both. 

    It's good to hear that you've been able to get in touch via phone and video calls recently although it's sad to hear that contact has been limited again. 

    Is there a family member that could act as an intermediary for you? Or a family friend that could advocate on your behalf to try and improve the contact that you have? I don't know if you feel that perhaps writing to your Dad and his wife is an option. Maybe a letter from the heart could be a way forward in trying to heal the relationship between you all. 

    Ultimately it's a difficult situation that you find yourself in but hopefully you will be able to find a way to reach out and connect with your Dad. 

    I do hope that things improve for you all soon. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator