Caring for my Mum who has Brain Tumours and on Palliative Care

Hello, 

I will keep this short - I am 27 years old and currently live at home with my Mum and Dad, My mum has been in hospital for a month as she has 3 brain tumours that they can't cure due to other illnesses such as lung disease that if they went forward with radiotherapy it could be worse for her health. 

I am 20 weeks pregnant and plan on moving into my own home eventually with my partner but I am currently living at home, my baby is my mum's first grandchild and she has always wanted grandbabies and I believe she keeps on fighting so that she is here to meet her.

I am looking forward to my mum coming home and being with us again, I feel lucky I have more time with her - but I also really worried and anxious as every morning about coming downstairs and her possibly passing away (I know it sounds awful even having these thoughts) but I am so scared to loose her and I already wake up with anxiety until I know she is ok

I would just love some advice on how I can change my mind set and worry - as it is a routine of mine now every morning to feel anxious about whether I have another day with her or not, please x

  • Welcome to the forum PaigeSPD although I'm really sorry to hear about your mum.

    This must be such a difficult time but I'm glad you've reached out to us as we have many members who have been in a similar situation with their loved ones so you are not alone and hopefully some of them will stop by soon to offer their support and advice.

    We have some useful information for family, friends and caregivers and advice about mental health and cancer on our website too, but if you'd like to talk any of this through with one of our cancer nurses you can do so on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They're very easy to talk to and will do all they can to help.

    We're thinking of you Paige and hope your mum will be back home with you soon. 

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Can totally relate to what your going thru , my mam is coming home tomorrow on palliative care and am absolutely petrified , but am also using this time to make whatever memories I can with her , life is cruel sorry I can’t advise on the aniexty issues am feeling them to but congrats on ur pregnancy take care of yourself and baby good luck xx