Feeling so alone

My partner age 30 has been diagnosed with stage 4 melanoma spread to his lungs and lymph nodes in groin and armpit. We have 3 young boys.

Diagnosed a week ago and I'm already being a carer helping dress, sorting meals, meds and dressing tumor x3 a day. I'm really struggling with feeling so alone. We have support from our families but no one understands no one has been in our shoes. 

I'm only 29 we have been together 11 years it breaks my heart that we may not have long left and he won't see the boys grow. 

I'm so full off emotions I don't know where to turn 

  • I’m so sorry to hear that Taylor. Reach out to your partners cancer team , ask for support. There’s also Maggies centres , there’ll be one near you . Talk to your friends, some won’t understand, some will, same with family. You’re very young to be going through this. I hope you’ve told your children’s school so they can support yoour children. Speak to nurses on this website or MacMillan. Sometimes trying to get the support feels hard but once you have people to talk to, it really helps.  Please enjoy some good fun times with your children, hopefully family are offering to be with your partner too . I have stage 4 palliative care cancer and had cancer when my kids were very young too . Please look around you and let them know how your fee, it’s a horrible sad time . Both you and your partner need support, the organisations I’ve mentioned should be able to help more   Take care of you too x

  • Thank you for taking the time to reply I really do appreciate it. I am sorry to hear you have stage 4 palliative cancer it must be incredibly tough! I will look into my options for further support thanks again