Hello Arthurbear, 

I am so sorry about your husband's diagnosis. It sounds like the shock of the diagnosis has made it difficult for him to talk at the moment and this is manifesting itself as anger and fear, him withdrawing in his shell. Perhaps he just needs a little bit of time to process everything before being able to open up about it with you. All you can do really is tell him that you will always be there for him and that you are there to listen whenever he feels ready to talk. You seem to be such a lovely caring person I am sure he appreciates having you by his side and that you will find together what the best way is to deal with this. I am sure he knows you care. Many members of our community will have been in your place before and they may well have have had a partner who reacted in the same way before. I hope that they will be along shortly to offer you support and share their experience with you. 

We're thinking of you both during this tough time and if at any point you needed to talk things through with our cancer nurses, don't hesitate to ring their helpline on this free number 0808 800 4040 - you can call them Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm.

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator