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My husband left me November of last year. I found out he was seeing someone else in december last year and then have got diagnosed with breast cancer in January.  I have been going through treatment ever since and I still have quite a bit of treatment to go through. 
I don’t want to have to move from my home I don’t have the energy to move from my home. I have been with my husband for 37 years and we have been married for 25 years. I can afford to,live in my home with my older children. But can’t afford to buy him out. Not fully.  
I was thinking of saying I won’t claim half of his pension if he leaves me in the family home and I will pay him a small lump sum for the house. I just need to stay put especially whilst I am going through treatment.  I don’t know if anyone else has had this problem.  

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    Hi tina,

    A very warm welcome to our forum.

    I am so sorry to hear of your distressing situation and wonder if you might qualify for some benefits now, because of your treatment? I know that this won't solve your housing situation, but it might help you with general expenses, when you are on your own. Macmillan are very helpful in telling you what you can or cannot claim. They often have a contact area in local hospitals, but if this is not so for you, you can contact them on line, or by phone and they will arrange to see you to help with this.

    Macmillan are also good at helping with financial matters, so may be able to make some suggestions about your house. The other possibility would be to contact your local the Citizen's Advice Bureau.

    I sincerely hope that you can come up with a solution soon, as this additional stress must be very wearing, alongside your treatment,

    Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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    Hi tina,

    A very warm welcome to our forum.

    I am so sorry to hear of your distressing situation and wonder if you might qualify for some benefits now, because of your treatment? I know that this won't solve your housing situation, but it might help you with general expenses, when you are on your own. Macmillan are very helpful in telling you what you can or cannot claim. They often have a contact area in local hospitals, but if this is not so for you, you can contact them on line, or by phone and they will arrange to see you to help with this.

    Macmillan are also good at helping with financial matters, so may be able to make some suggestions about your house. The other possibility would be to contact your local the Citizen's Advice Bureau.

    I sincerely hope that you can come up with a solution soon, as this additional stress must be very wearing, alongside your treatment,

    Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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