Mum's Cancer Diagnosis

Hello, My mum was diagnosed with gallbladder/ bile duct cancer in May- the doctors cannot decide which it is and that is common apparently. it was a total shock to all of us. It spread to several parts of her abdomen when they discovered it. Since then she has had chemo, which does not seem to be working. She has multiple lumps on her liver and there are also lumps under her skin in the abdominal area and on her head.  She lives in Poland and we have been told that there is nothing more they can do. It is heartbreaking to see her struggle with this. It has not been that long for her to absorb it either. She thought she would live another 10 years at least. She says she wants to live and that too is hard to hear. I wish I could do something. We have not been super close but I cannot imagine what life might be like without her. It seems life is changing and there is nothing we can do. I wish I could stop time from flowing. Does anyone know where I can get more info on this type of cancer btw? Many thanks. 

  • Hi Karolini,

    A very warm welcome to our forum.

    I am sorry to hear about your mum's diagnosis and that the chemo does not seem to be working for her. I lived in another country, when my mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer too. All I could do was to go and see her as often as I could and to ensure that she was kept as comfortable as she possibly could be. It is heart breaking to watch someone you love slowly slip away and to know that there is nothing in our power that we can do to stop this from happening. Unfortunately, it is the natural progression of life, that our parents will pass before us. It doesn't matter that you haven't been super close, she is your mum and you naturally want to hold on to her.

    The Cancer Research Site has some information on this type of cancer. You will also find posts from people who have gone through this, or are going through this, if you use the "Search Forum" box at the top of this page and enter either gallbladder cancer, or bile duct cancer. Try to avoid looking things up on Google and stick to the more respected cancer sites. Much of what Google prints is aimed at the more spectacular cases, won't be applicable to your mum, won't give you any answers and will only serve to scare you.

    Please keep in touch and let us know how your mum gets on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Thank you for your kind words and info. x