A warm welcome to our forum, angelsands.

I'm sorry to hear about your mum's diagnosis. It's completely understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed, especially with the responsibility of informing your children. It's okay to feel the way you do, and it's important to lean on your support system, including your husband.

It might be beneficial to have an open and honest conversation with your mum about her pain management, expressing your concerns and discussing the possibility of additional support from the lung specialist. Remember to take things one step at a time, and don't hesitate to seek professional advice or counseling to help navigate this difficult time.

Hopefully, others who have had similar experiences with loved ones with cancer will come along shortly to offer advice. That being said, if you feel like asking some questions to our team of nurses, they'd be happy to talk things over with you Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m on this freephone 0808 800 4040. 

Last but not least, I'm including some information from our website about stage 4 lung cancer and coping with cancer as a family member. I hope these two pages can be of some help.

Wishing you all the best,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

Thank you for your reply. I have stopped crying all the time and spoken to the lung specialist about the pain they have increased the dose. I have tried to be jolly and speak to my mum about her needing to be out of pain to lead a normal life. At the moment she is just sleeping waking up to eat and then sleeping I’m just wondering is this the morphine doing this? I tried to say to mum just let’s go somewhere but she’s scared of falling to sleep.