Hi Chilton90,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

I am sorry to hear about your Mum's diagnosis, but glad that you are looking to see what support she'll need when going through treatment. The fact that she is otherwise fit and healthy should stand her in good stead to fight this disease. The best support you can give is to be there for her and to constantly remind her of how much you love her. When you are with her at every step along the way, you will see what her needs are. We all react in different ways to treatment and often have different needs. Drinking plenty of water is important during treatment and we sometimes have to be persuaded to drink, even when we don't feel like it. Likewise your Mum may need her food pureed to help her to swallow, or may even need some of the build-up foods, which are available on prescription. These are not always offered and you may need to arrange for this. Her laundry and general housekeeping duties will also be a struggle, as will her shopping. These are all things that you can help with.

She is likely to feel tired, nauseous and lethargic when she is undergoing chemo and it might be best for her to have someone with her throughout this time. Most of us are scared when we get a cancer diagnosis. Your Mum might find it helpful to talk to a counsellor or to Macmillan, who offer support to anyone who has cancer. It is often easier for those of us with cancer to talk to someone with experience of this disease, instead of doing so with a loved one and risking upsetting them further. She may need reading material or music to help her pass her time during chemo sessions. Are there any people she may want to see or any places she may want to go? - if, so perhaps you could facilitate this? 

These are just a few early thoughts. I sincerely hop that she will get her treatment plan soon and then she can start her treatment.

Please keep in touch and let us know how she gets on. We are always here for both of you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx