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My heart is breaking for my mum

Gwebber90
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Hi all 

New to this page thought I would join as I've taken comfort in reading some of the stories.

I am currently going through the worst time of my life at the moment.

My mum had bowel cancer last year and had it surgically removed and was given 3 months of chemo. 

She went for her check up scan last week and it's back and it's spread to into the lining of her stomach.

Doctors have given her some hope telling her she has loads of treatment options with immunotherapy and chemotherapy. 

I just can't help but thinking the worst. I feel like I'm slowly breaking inside and the thought of my mum suffering and the thought of loosing her is breaking me inside. I can't stop crying and I feel so angry and disconnected from the world since I received this news. 

Is it normal to feel like there is no hope and to think the worst ?

Thanks 

Grant

  • Hello Grant

    I'm sorry to hear that your Mum has been told that her bowel cancer has returned following her recent scan. It's understandably a difficult time for you and natural that you will be experiencing a whole range of emotions. 

    It sounds positive that the specialists have told her there are a range of treatment options available. Although I can imagine that you might have lots of questions about these options and what they might mean for your Mum. 

    Hearing that a loved one has cancer can be devastating news and this period of waiting now for more information before your Mum starts the next phase of treatment is hard for many people. We know that often it can help to talk with someone about how you're feeling and I wonder if you might find it beneficial to chat things through with someone. You're welcome to call our team of nurses who I know will be happy to listen and offer any advice, information, and support they can. They're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. Alternatively, there may be a charity such as Maggie's local to you where you can seek some support. It's worth asking your GP surgery what support is available in your local area. 

    I hope that whatever treatment plan your Mum starts things progress smoothly and the team is able to give you both some positive news. 

    Keep in touch Grant and let us know how you're both doing,. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

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    Hey I’m so so sorry to hear about your mum. I know it’s so hard to keep positive through such a hard time and there are days that you can’t keep positive. I’m going through something similar and it takes a toll on your mental health…if I could advise one thing is talk to the people around you. Ya it will be hard you will feel like you’re a burden to them but trust me your people will want you to come to them when you’re feeling this way. I’ve been going through this since 2021 and I only now realise how much I need the people around me for support.

    It is also sometimes easier to reach out to those who are going through something similar so don’t be afraid to reach out to me because we’re all in this together fighting the same disease….wether we are fighting for us or the people we love. 

    I hope everything works out for the best and wish you and your mom the best xx

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