I’m in exactly the same position. Similar age to you with children, mum just diagnosed with lung and spinal lesions although it sure where the primary cancer is . Praying for treatment to slow it and more time. We’re so close and am devastated. Also have the work stress and very busy life. I will probably reduce hours as I want to be with her  and  im just going to accept offers of help so I can be with her. I’ve been through this with my Dad and it does sink in and you do stay strong but the initial shock is terrible . All the best 

Hi thanks for your response and I'm sorry to hear this. It's such a shock. Like you say life's busy and just trying to process everything and function. My boss has been amazing this week to be fair. We will have to keep strong for our families and yes accept offers of support! Thank you I wish you all the best x

Hey I’m going through the same thing with my mam they keep telling me they have treatments they can use but nothing had changed since April. I’ve tried to be positive but it’s hard. I couldn’t imaging having to juggle work and kids with this. I’m so sorry you have to go through so much. I’m 21 working and in college and it feels like sometimes it’s easier to be so busy that you don’t have time to think about it. If ever you just need to chat and get things off your chest feel free to reach out because we’re all in this together. Xx

I Feel exactly the same, apart from our family circumstances being different. I have just been told my Mum has weeks/months to live and I’m absolutely devastated. Up until Friday we knew nothing.
we live and do everything together and have the best times and I can’t imagine what life will be like without her. I don’t have my own family through choice/it’s just not happened, so I will be left in our house all on my own. I do have family nearby and friends but it just won’t be the same. I don’t know what to do with myself. Will I be able to cope?

So sorry to hear that. You will be able to cope but it probably doesn’t feel like it at the moment . I think you begin to grieve as soon as soon as you find out they are I’ll. i know I did when I lost my Dad. That was 15 years ago but I still break down now . However it does get better but it takes time. 

im still waiting for my mums results , we go back Thursday. I’m fearing the worse and think treatment is going to be limited so expecting a similar prognosis to you. My mum also lives with us next door and the thought of her not being here is just awful. 

just enjoy your time together, I am and surround yourself with family and friends . When I lost my dad I couldn’t go back to the house where he lived/I had grown up , it was too sad. I moved area and my mum followed. Sometimes a change helps.

All the best x

Thank you for your reply, it helps a little to know that other people are going through the same thing. Thank you too for the encouragement that things will get better and we do cope. I lost my dad when I was 20 and he was the best too/again we were always together, but at least then I had my mum to be with and look after each other. I want to cope for her, but it’s just overwhelming and Christmas coming up doesn’t help as we both absolutely love Christmas and plan from November and go to town. I hope that I will still be able to do these things for her as I know she would want!!

thank you again for you’re reply and good luck on Thursday…I hope you get the news you want.

take care x

Oh goodness you sound just like I have been with my parents, very close. Twenty is young :o(. Yes my mum helped me when Dad died and we both cared for him . This is the bit that scares me is that decisions are with me n ow. We visited a hospice yesterday, it helped, mum held me up again when I broke down but just knowing what they offer is good to know . We then managed to walk around John Lewis for half an hour befo she’d had enough and I cherished every moment . It’s so tough  . Christmas is so hard as we both love it too.i hope you get chance to do these things. I’m getting a wheelchair for mum next week x

Yes and I’m very grateful for having this.

My mum is finding it pretty hard just to get out of bed already as she is having trouble eating and feels very weak, I am trying to at least get her to drink, which again she is not really interested in but at least this is better than the food. I am grateful that when she is in bed she is comfortable, although it does mean she spends a lot of her time asleep, which is good for her, but hard for me.

we have got some people coming to see her over the next couple of days if she’s up to it.

I am glad you have been able to do some little bits with your mum, I thought I would be able to do bits and bobs like this too, but it all just seems to be happening so quickly.

Take care and good luck with everything. Let me know how it goes x