Hello emma2112, 

It's a very difficult decision you're having to make and a very personal one too. The not knowing what to expect is hard too but sadly with cancer it's not always possible to predict how things might develop, whether chemotherapy will work well and what the life expectancy might be. So your decision cannot be based on that really as it's not easy to tell what might happen to your mum. I can understand that as your mum has advanced cancer, you would like to be near her at the moment and see her as much as possible but at the same time you have all these exciting plans and you are hesitating to put them on hold. Perhaps ask yourself whether you can postpone these travel plans slightly or talk to your mum too about how she feels about you possibly going away at the moment. You will need to weigh the pros and cons really and find out what would be best for you. Other members of our forum may have found themselves in a similar situation having to make difficult choices such as yours and I hope they will be along soon to share their story with you. 

Best of luck whatever you decide and best wishes to your mum - I really hope that the chemotherapy treatment will work well for her and that sooner or later, you will be able to go on your exciting travel adventures. 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator