My partner has told me he has cancer

Me and my partner have a brilliant relationship 

we live separately for the last week he’s been very distant with me i knew he had alot on with other commitments etc but couldn’t understand why he was pushing me away. We didn’t argue or anything. 
anyway fast forward a week later he told me today he found out last week hes got cancer . He’s clearly feeling a wheel of emotions but when i asked have you seen your gp he said ive been ignoring them. 
I automatically said you can’t ignore this .. the sooner this gets seen too the better! Hes 2 young children with his ex . His kids are the world to him so i said do it for them.

so he promised he’ll phone gp in morning and also promised to phone me back this evening.. hes went back to ignoring me again. 
ive told him im here, i love him, i want to be there for him throughout everything.. 

i know he’s probaly thinking all the worst things ever , but he hasn’t told his parents or friends or anyone just me .. 

I feel really responsible to make sure he addresses this .. 

im so worried for him and don’t want to be doing his head in but hes a person that puts up and shuts up and gets on with it when hes not well but this isn’t a cold or a sore tooth this is serious 

how can i help him?? 
i work with sick elderly i have a good understanding of care etc but i have yet to deal with a loved member who has been told they have cancer 

my heads melted i have spent all week wondering why is he being off with me thinking he had doubts about me but unfortunately i got told something worse than that.. 

he told me he loves me, wants to be with me just needs time.. 

thats fine! I totally understand but im here, i love him, he needs to address this .. 

how can i help him? 
what do i do? 

  • Hello Helphim1

    I'm sorry to hear about all that's been going on between you and your partner and that he's now told you he's been diagnosed with cancer. Understandably it's a difficult time for you both. 

    You mention in your post that he hadn't seen his GP since his diagnosis. This isn't unusual as most people's care and treatment tend to be managed by the specialist team at the hospital that will have diagnosed them. However, it's certainly a good idea to get in touch with his GP if he's struggling and needs support. 

    Hopefully you will be able to see or speak with him soon and get an update on how he's feeling and what the next steps are in terms of the diagnosis he's received. 

    Do let us know how you're both doing. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator