Hello cazzacake 

I'm sorry to hear about the situation you and your husband find yourselves in. It's understandably a difficult time for you both right now and natural that you are feeling lonely and frightened. 

You don't mention in your post if you've had an honest and open conversation with your husband about his diagnosis and how you're both feeling/coping with things. Don't be afraid to talk to him about what you both need. I'd encourage you to chat with your children too so that they can be there to offer you both any support they can. 

Many people feel frightened at the prospect of what the future holds when a loved one has a cancer diagnosis. Hopefully, some of our members who understand this will post to share their support and experience with you. In the meantime, I'd really encourage you to reach out to any local services for support. There may be a Maggie's local to you and centres such as these can be a great source of support and help during difficult times. If you're unsure about services available in your local area chat with your GP surgery or your husband's clinical nurse specialist/Consultant. 

If you'd like to talk with one of our nurses you're welcome to call them on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm (excluding bank holidays). I'm sure they will be happy to listen and offer any advice, information, and support they can. 

For now, take things one day at a time. Looking too far ahead can leave you feeling overwhelmed and anxious so try to focus on the here and now and take each day as it comes. 

Sending you my very best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator