My wife went through BC treatment, and we had rows. Though, it was mostly when she was on steroids. They'd make her angry, lol. Roid rage. Even the oncologist stated he has many couples come into the room barely on talking terms, so we got off lightly.

Add to all of that, the stress of a cancer diagnosis, for both partners is hugely stressful. I learned to go for walks if i felt myself about to explode. But sometimes a good argument clears the stress, at least for a few days. Stuff will always be said that is hurtful, even in good times, it's how you deal with it afterwards that matters.

I hate to break it to you, but you're, well, eh ... normal?

My wife went through BC treatment, and we had rows. Though, it was mostly when she was on steroids. They'd make her angry, lol. Roid rage. Even the oncologist stated he has many couples come into the room barely on talking terms, so we got off lightly.

Add to all of that, the stress of a cancer diagnosis, for both partners is hugely stressful. I learned to go for walks if i felt myself about to explode. But sometimes a good argument clears the stress, at least for a few days. Stuff will always be said that is hurtful, even in good times, it's how you deal with it afterwards that matters.

I hate to break it to you, but you're, well, eh ... normal?

Thank you for your reassurance. 

My husband is in operation at this moment 

Hi KattyB

I'm sorry to meet you on here.  Both my husband and I have had cancer, him prostate and myself breast last year and I do still pop on here from time to time.  We've had both angles, my supporting him and him supporting me 5 years later.  It's never easy coping with a cancer diagnosis and is tough on everyone involved. You will get through it together and I wouldn't worry too much about your row, maybe it cleared the air.  Try to take things one stage at a time.
I hope the robotic prostatectomy surgery went well.  The first week or so will be quite tough until the catheter is out and your husband has recovered a bit.  All will be well.  My husband recovered really well.  You hear all sorts of scary stories but his side affects haven't affected him or us too badly at all.  It does take time though and it's really important to focus on afterncare and exercise (particularly pelvic floor) which will all be explained to him.  Five years in my husband is back playing sport, riding his bike and working flat out.  He's had a good result post op and I'm sure your husband will as well.  Look after yourself too as everyone will be relying on you for a while.

All the best,

Mary

thanks for the positive case study!

thanks Mary. could I ask about his side effects, if any? quite understand if you'd rather not comment. thanks again