Hi Sophie,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

I am so sorry to hear about your mum.

I lost my mum to secondary breast cancer, which had spread to her bones, brain, lungs and liver. Some years later, I was diagnosed. I have been in the same position as your mum on three sepaarate occasions. On the first, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. Six months later I found a larger lump in the other breast. My consultant was sure that it was cancer, but fortunately, a biopsy found that it was benign. A year after my first diagnosis, I found a lump in my original breast and wasn't so lucky. It is now 13 years since I had these two cancers, and I still lead a busy and fulfilling life.

Fortunately, treatments have advanced dramatically in the past few years. There was just no comparison between the experiences which mum and I had. Waiting for results is always one of the hardest parts of our cancer journeys. It becomes easier to deal with once you know exactly what you are dealing with - the unknown is a very scary place.

It is hard to be strong and positive for her, but your support will be invaluable. Please keep in touch and let us know how she gets on. We are always here for both of you.

I shall be thinking of you on 16th.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx