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welcome 

I had breast cancer last year I'm fully recovered back to my crazy life 

sorry your mum has had a diagnosis it's bad news but it's not a death sentence these days your mum will get this removed and treated she will be fine please don't worry medical science has moved on so much there are people on this forum who had breast cancer 15 years ago and mead a normal life to this day 

I'm here if you need to chat anytime 

good luck love Lara ️

thank you lara, thank you so much for taking time to say something to me. it's great to know ur doing ok and thriving. I really want to believe its not a death sentence, but the kind of cancer she has is concerning, its TNBC. 

being a doctor myself, unfortunately not an oncologist, i wish now i had specialised in oncology. I feel so useless, I can't do anything to make my mum feel better. 

I can't even face my patients without crying, especially when they remind me of my mum. 

I worry about her being able to cope with all the changes, the chemo therapy, the surgery, she has to go through all of this. I really just do not want to see her go through any pain. 

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my friend had triple negative that's how I found mine unfortunately s she was diagnosed and I was paranoid and went for a check mine was her2 negative 

she had 15 rounds of chemo then lumpectomy then radiotherapy and then another 6 months of chemo tablets 

along the way obviously speaking to people along the way a lady who works nearby my office also had triple negative 12 years ago I really understood your fear but there are really some ladies who have survived this naughty cancer for many years too .

so please keep this in mind too the word of the TNBC are scary is your mum in early stages of this ? 
love Lara ️

Hi there 

I have a recent diagnosis of breast cancer and go start chemo very soon!  Like Lara said it's no longer a death sentence it's a part of a horrible chapter that we will get thru with the support of family and friends also the power of a women's mind!! I have a son who is 19 and I haven't told him yet, something I'm not looking forward to!! It's scary for family but keep positive as it will do your mum wonders!! Always here for a chat xx

It's a late early stage. 3A with nodal mets only. Initial ct scan confirms same.  She's on chemo now, thankfully tolerating it well. She's due a mastectomy asap, only got back the IHC results yesterday. I can't stop crying, not sure how I'll look after my patients who need me too. Lara thank you so much. I really can't tell you how much just having someone else tell me it's going to be ok. In my doctor head all I can think of are the negatives and worst possibilities. I'm an emergency consultant. My whole job is risk reduction, and I couldn't do anything to reduce her risk. 

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My poor friend has severe anxiety now as I think at her appointments it was emphasised about the TNBC and nothing will uplift her I try my best but it don't work , I made contact with the lady in work by me to call her to try and reassure her and honestly it worked so well my friends was 3 no lymph involvement .

Do you think maybe working will keep your mind occupied better or do you think you could take a short break from work ? 

I'm always here to chat to you I can't leave this site as so much was offered to me at my time I need to give back now 

love Lara ️

Hi. I'm so sorry you have to be here with your diagnosis too. Can I please wish all the best with this journey. Thank you for supporting me even with what you're going through. I'll take your advice and try to not think of just the negatives. Thank you again 

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yes try to it's hard but you can do it , just think of it as a chronic illness not a death sentence and maybe hopefully your mindset can change to a slightly more uplifted place 

stay here for support if and when needed we are all here for you 

love Lara ️