Should I go on holiday while partner's mum is terminally ill

My partners mum is terminally ill. Recently things have taken a turn for the worst and she is declining. They have said she still has around 4 months left but she is already sleeping a lot but we don't know if it's the medication as she's on heavy pain meds or if she's coming to end of life. We don't seem to be getting many answers at the moment.
I am due to go on holiday in a couple of weeks with my friend and I'm not sure what to do. My partner and his mother have told me they want me to go and that I shouldn't stop my life. I want to be there to support him and the family. Unfortunately because it's too close to my holiday I am unable to make any changes to it. I am really stuck, I feel so guilty to go but also they tell me it's once in a lifetime holiday and I need to go. Just concerned if things were to take a turn for the worst while I am away and I won't be able to support them. 

  • What a very tricky situation to be in Alx.

    I can completely understand why you're having reservations about going but if you have both their blessings, then maybe it would be a good idea to go on your holiday, especially if it can't be amended and is a once in a lifetime opportunity.

    I know your mind will be drifting back to your partner and their mother when you're away but there are so many ways you can stay connected now so even though you may not be there in person, you can always be there to support them in other ways.

    Hopefully some of our members will offer their thoughts and advice to you soon as well but in the meantime, we're thinking of you and wishing you a wonderful time away.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi. Sorry to hear about your mother in law.   Not sure anyone can give you the right answer 

    only

    you can decide what's right for you.