my mam recently got a diagnosis of cervical cancer and i'm not sure how to help her or make sure she's ok, she certainly doesn't like the tests or the idea that she will have to do chemo or radiotherapy. any advice would be appreciated xx
my mam recently got a diagnosis of cervical cancer and i'm not sure how to help her or make sure she's ok, she certainly doesn't like the tests or the idea that she will have to do chemo or radiotherapy. any advice would be appreciated xx
Welcome to Cancer Chat, madims although I'm sorry for the reason that brings you here.
Caring for a loved one can be challenging so it's important you look after yourself too. Many here will understand exactly how you're feeling so I hope some of them will pop in soon with words of advice and encouragement.
Also, there is a page from our website I wanted to share with you in case that helps, it's called Family, friends and caregivers and there you will find tips on how to support someone with cancer and how to take care of yourself.
I hope this helps. And please remember, we're always here if you need a chat.
Best wishes,
Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator
Hello! I'm sorry to hear that, I hope your all doing as best as you can. My father got diagnosed about 6 months ago, he has currently been through radio therapy along side chemotherapy. I have been with him to nearly every appointment. I'm luckily self employed so I am able to be flexible with work and be there for my father. I would just say that the nurses are sooo lovely and so welcoming so that will definitely make you and your mum feel better. You end up getting to know them quite well so it just becomes a part of your day saying hi and getting to know how they are doing and they make you feel at ease. The whole process seems less scary. With radio your mum has to drink a lot of water before she goes in, so maybe get a favourite water bottle that you bring everytime to make the experience as nice as possible. My father and I picked our favourite seats and would run over to them. I just tried to make the experince as normal as possible for my father to release any fear he had about it. Radio therapy tends to be very short, the actual duration for your mum so it's not long at all which is definitely an A+! Chemo therapy hasn't been as nice for my father, I am definitely seeing him depleteing more than the radio therapy. You find tip and tricks to help them with it though. Hot water bottles for sore arms with chemo helps a lot. Lemon mouth sweets helped put some more moisture in my dads mouth to stop mouth sores. Constant sips of water before and during meals stopped his mouth from getting dry and throat closing up. A pretty pair of gloves as they get very sensitive to the cold. It sounds daunting but unfortunately becomes the norm and you slowly adapt to it. It's going to be very scary and probably a little depressing for your mum as it has been for my dad. He was a very healthy man physically and mentally, so it's going to be a big change for the both of you but just understanding and you being there for a shoulder to cry on really helps. Xx