Hello Plondon23 and welcome to Cancer Chat, 

It must be really hard for you as your dad's main carer to deal with all this. As you said, it all coincided with the time when you were going to take a career break and focus on yourself and I can understand why you are therefore finding things doubly difficult. It's great news though that his cancer is treatable and that he has had excellent care but I can imagine his negativity is wearing you down at the moment and is very much affecting your life. 

It's hard to have to be the "strong one" when you also need to take time to look after yourself and recharge your batteries. You might find our information for Family, Friends and Caregivers useful as it will highlight some of the different ways you can help and support somebody when they have been diagnosed with cancer. But it is also really important to take care of yourself and you will find some good tips on this page. Get in touch also with CarersUK who offer great support to carers who find themselves in situations like yours. 

I hope that you will hear from the experiences of other patients or carers on the forum who have been through something similar. You're definitely not alone and feel free to come here and share with us how you are feeling. I hope that your father feels better and more positive soon. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator