Hello Loubylou,

I'm sorry to hear about your situation and how you've been struggling. Dealing with cancer can be a difficult time for both the patient and their loved ones and sometimes you need to talk to others who understand.

You mentioned you had a great support network so don't be afraid to confide in them, if you aren't already. I'm sure they would want to help you in any way that they can. 

It's important to recognise that domestic abuse isn't always about violence, it can also include emotional abuse and coercive behaviour. You can read more about this and find helpful information on the Government website. It goes without saying that your husband's diagnosis is not your fault and you're doing your best to support him and your son. 

You might like to call the National Domestic Abuse helpline for a chat, they are available on freephone 0808 2000247, or you can contact them directly from their website. Their expert advisers offer confidential, non-judgmental support 24 hours a day 7 days a week. 

You might also find it useful to talk to someone at Relate about the difficulties you are having in your relationship. They offer a range of digital and telephone counselling services, you can call them on 0300 0030396 to discuss whether this is something you might find useful. And finally, there I wanted to give you the link to a charity called Refuge, they have useful information on their website.

As a cancer charity this isn't our area of expertise, but the forum is always here for you whenever you need it.

I hope this helps in some way,

Moderator Anastasia