Cancer is ruining my life at school.

My name is Heather and I am 15 years old. My dad has stage 4 Lung cancer and hasn't got very long left to live. I have been trying to go to school and do work like normal, however, many people at school are very spiteful towards me. It all happened when I didn't invite someone over due to my dad being on chemotherapy and covid was still bad then. This one girl has now befriended a lot of other rude girls who gang up on me, just doing relatively small things, but sometimes the small things can hurt the most. I cant speak about things to them right now, there are so many reasons why, but all I know is that talking to these girls is not an option. I have been having panic attacks at school just from the thought of going to these classes with these girls in. None of the girls know that the latest news about my dad isn't good, I don't know if that would make them nicer or meaner. The only person that knows about my dad that I have told in my school is a teacher's assistant, who I only spoke to briefly when he found me crying in class. Everywhere I go, these girls are staring at me, whispering and laughing. I fear to go to school tomorrow and I have no idea what to do.

Any advice would be amazing, I am a very introverted person which is why I haven't told many people.

 

Thank you,

Heather.

 

  • Oh sweetheart, I didn't want to just read and not say anything. Girls can be so cruel. I'm really sorry to hear about your dad and what you are going through

    Is there a trusted adult at school you can talk too? Speaking through about what you are going through and dealing with would be really helpful. Perhaps they could speak to the girls being mean on your behalf and explain what a tough time you are having.

    I got horribly bullied at your age and hated going to school, I was dealing with losing my mum to cancer as well. I reported it and it did improve somewhat. 

    I wish you all the luck in the world, you are obviously a very strong young lady

     

     

     

  • Hi there ...

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment...  kids can be so crule ... 

    Please reach out to a teacher you like ... I think your teachers need to know your story and what's happening at home with dad, and what's happening at school ... but you need to reach out .. if you call McMillan help line, and ask them if they know who you can talk to ... 

    Have you any siblings, is mum around or a female relative you can open up too ... 

    Bullies are horrible, and the more you don't open up, the more they will carry on ... but I'm sure if the teachers know what your going through, they will do something ... and you can chat on here and get your worry s  out ... I so hope you find someone to fight in your corner ... bless ya ... Chrissie...