Hello MezE and a warm welcome to Cancer Chat, 

First of all congratulations on your pregnancy! This is wonderful news. It's so nice of you though to be thinking of your brother's feelings - you sound very considerate and he is lucky to have such a caring sister. It's so sad what is happening to your brother  and I can understand why you are feeling a little indecisive about telling him and you are worried this would upset him. But perhaps on the contrary the news would bring a lot of comfort and joy to your brother and it is likely he will simply be happy for you and that it will allow him to focus on something positive other than his cancer. It's hard to know what to do really as you know your brother's personality best and I am sure in your heart you will know how he is likely to react when you announce the big baby news. You mentioned that you recently found out you were pregnant - some people also decide to wait three months before telling their loved ones and this again is a very personal thing so do what you feel is best in your heart for you and for your family. Christmas all together could be a lovely occasion to break the news to your loved ones and to have something to celebrate during this difficult time. 

It's a tough one though and I think the best thing to do is to trust your instinct and you will know I think in your heart whether it is the right moment or if you would rather wait a little longer. It is wonderful news though and I am sure your brother and your sister and indeed all your family will be genuinely happy for you. 

I will let our members now come and say hello and share their thoughts on your situation with you.

We hope that despite the sad news that your brother is terminally ill, you will enjoy a lovely Christmas in the company of your loved ones and being pregnant, you can definitely indulge a little and enjoy some nice Christmas treats :silly:

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator