Coping with not knowing the outcome

So my husband been diagnosed with gist cancer last year so we are now in our 1half years of dealing with this. His has tumour in lung liver and stomach. The one on his liver has grown and are hoping they can do something about it. But we no there nothing can be done about the other. We haven't been given a time he on these new tablet treatment. But I always have that question how long but never want to ask as at the moment he ok still going strong. But I know there be that day we're we will have that news. But am I thinking to far ahead of things or an I being practical by trying to prepare myself. I just don't know I can't talk to him as he don't like talking about it but I just need answers am I wrong for wanting to know. We live day by day as that what I've always said before we got this Information. 

  • Hey Belle, 

    I just came across your post and wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you.

    I can't begin to imagine how difficult it must be to live with the uncertainty this situation brings but taking things day by day sounds like a good approach.

    I hope it helps to know that many of our members have also been in this position, so you are not alone, and I'm sure some of them will be along soon to offer you their thoughts and advice.

    If you find it may help to talk things through with one of our cancer nurses, you can give them a call on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They're very good listeners and will do all they can to help and support you at this time.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi Belle, 

    i know exactly how you feel, my husband was diagnosed with Adrenal Cancer in 2020, he has been through so much I often think where will this go, concentrating on when will they say how long he has. I then after 2 years realised I had to stop thinking this way and live each day while there was no time was specified. he had a sudden rupture to a secondary tumour that made me realise don't wait for that prognosis make memories every day it is possible, he is still in recovery of the latest incident. Be as strong as you can be speak to people, we recently got a pet that has helped immensely to help fill the times when your thoughts go off in a tangent.

    take care and know you're not on your own